Is It Time for Your GoodBye?

No one enjoys being dumped, rejected, laid off, denied, delayed or put down. Sometimes – rejection is God’s protection. People can be blinded by fantasy, abuse, guilt or procrastination and not realize because they lack the strength to move on. God has a way of closing doors to unfulfilling jobs, cutting us off from people who mean us no good and ending relationships where we lacked the integrity, self-esteem, faith or courage to mend it or end it.

Sometimes there is some good in a good-bye. There are times we are too naive or in a comfort zone and the only way we can grow is to experience the GOODBYE. – Jewel Diamond Taylor

Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. – Ambrose Redmoon

My “intention” with this post is that I know there are many who are at crossroads/transitions in life. Relationships, jobs, friendships, family problems; heavy decisions that need to be made in order to live the life you should be living, or desperately want to live.

Be encouraged today that sometimes, there is GOOD in goodbye.

Life – Why The Road Curves

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.   – 1st Corinthians 10:13 (NIV)

This bible verse has saved my sanity! When I first read it many years ago, I recall making the statement “If God doesn’t give us more than we can bear – he must think the world of me.”

I use to be an excessive worrier. I worried to the point of losing sleep. I worried so much I developed irritable bowel syndrome. I’m sure you’re aware, the things we worry about never seem to happen and the things that happen unexpectedly are things we probably wouldn’t have worried about in the first place.

The next time you’re out driving in your car think about this, “Why do the roads curve?” “Why can’t roads all be straight?” In every city the streets go up and down or around corners. Those curved roads are a great metaphor for life.

My six year marriage was tumultuous. In the midst of my marriage crisis when I was down and really beating up on myself I remember asking, “Why didn’t I see this coming?” My mentor said, “Because you would not have been able to handle it before now.” She said, “That’s why the road curves. It provides us with the opportunity to take in a little at a time. As we move forward, covering more ground, a little more is revealed to us.”

(Looking at this picture, we don’t know what’s beyond the curve)

That’s how Life works. It’s a process! It gives us what we can handle in small doses, even when we think we’re able to handle more. It’s called the Grace of God. He will not give you more than He thinks you can handle at any one time. Each time we face a challenge, obstacle or difficulty, we learn what we CAN and CANNOT do. No matter what we do, it’s the best we can do under the given circumstances with the information we have at the time. When it’s time to do something different, we will.

Wherever you find yourself is exactly where you need to be.

Deepak Chopra, who at times is a little too deep even for me, said in © The Book of Secrets,
“Whatever relationships you have attracted into your life at any given time, are the relationships you need to be in at that time. When you’re ready to do a new thing, in a new way, you will do it, with new people.”

I read more and more about people who are waiting for their soul mates and loves of their lives, frantically hunting and searching. Realize today that there are people waiting for who you are becoming right now. Chances are you’re not ready to meet them today but have faith because you will, but only when it’s time. Until then, honor your process. Think of how fabulous you’ll be when the time does come.

The road curves for a reason. It’s a process and now when life throws me a curve I smile and say, “If God thinks I can handle it. Who am I to second guess Him?”


Do something every single day that makes you happy. Remember to be grateful and stay away from negative thoughts and people. Instead of focusing on the negatives in your life, give yourself credit for everything positive and good that you’ve done to bring you this far. When you think about your situation, no matter what it is, realize there are some people who couldn’t overcome what you’re experiencing. You’re still standing. As long as you’re still standing there is Hope. Quitting should never be an option. Have faith and exercise it daily.