Like you, throughout my life, I’ve had some disappointments with jobs, relationships, family and friends. I’ve been in the “pit” when I felt so low I wondered if I would ever smile again. Like Lucille Ball says, “You have to keep busy and make optimism a way of life.” It’s easier said than done but whenever I find myself going to a dark place because of some life event – I’ve learned to busy myself. Go for a walk, clean out your closet, bake a cake or volunteer your free time. What you can’t do is wallow in self-pity. If you focus only on what’s bringing you down, it will keep you down.