Many of us were raised with our parents teaching us, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.” Gossip is venomous! It sells magazines and promotes dissension. Men and women alike are guilty of it, but women tend to do it more. We all know someone who never has anything nice to say about another person. These people have a need to feel superior to others. If you had the chance to look into their lives you would find they are miserable.
The worst part is that we usually gossip based on limited or false information. Would we act the same way if we knew the whole truth? Probably not! I’ve arrived at a solution for people who come to me with gossip. I stop them in their tracks. Why are you telling me this? That usually brings about immediate silence as well as a dumbfounded look. The truth of the matter is: you can’t engage in gossip unless you have a willing participant.
Gossip will not go away but if we all could practice “nice” the world certainly would be a better place. Tend to the weeds in your own backyard!